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Your representational system is primarily KINESTHETIC

What this means for effective communication

Each person has a preferred method of receiving and storing information and we call this their "representational system". For example: the room temperature of 72 degrees Fahrenheit is the same physical temperature as about 21 degrees Celsius. It is the same information, just represented in a different way.

People have different systems for absorbing and storing information... it's the same information, just stored a different way. Adapting the way that you give the information to the way the other person prefers to receive it, will instantly make you a more effective communicator.

Kinesthetic people tend to absorb information from the world around them using primarily the words and sounds that they hear. They tend to store the information primarily as sounds.

Of course kinesthetic people also use visuals, sounds, and logic when necessary, so your representational system is not always the same in every situation, but we each have an overall preferred method. The results of the survey indicate that yours is primarily Kinesthetic.

Some of the common characteristics of a kinesthetic person

Of course these aren't abosultes, but they are tendencies for kinesthetic people.

Respond to physical rewards and touching.
Memorize and learn by doing or walking through something.
Learn by doing, moving or touching.
Tend to be interested in things that "feel" right.
Go with your "gut" feelings when making decisions.
Dress and groom more for comfort than how you look.
More sensitive to temperatures and textures.

Sample words

People tend to use and prefer words and phrases that match their representational system. Some examples for kinesthetic people are:

  • Touch
  • Feel
  • Physical
  • Electrical
  • Vigorous
  • Contact
  • Unfeeling
  • Grasp
  • Hold
  • Pick up
  • Brush
  • Touch
  • Reach
  • Strike
  • Point

 Sample phrases

  • Touch and go
  • Brush up against
  • Bump into
  • Touch on
  • Point out
  • Come to grips with
  • Get in touch with
  • Have a feeling
  • Get a handle on
  • Pick up
  • Take the reins
  • Test drive
  • Hang on
  • Hold your horses
  • Make contact
  • Slip through
  • Sharp as a tack
  • Knuckle under

How you can tell if someone is kinesthetic

When you interact with other people, it's not possible to give them the survey to find our what their representational system is, so you will have to use your powers of observation and do a little detective work. Here are some clues that you can look for:

They will tend to use kinesthetic words and phrases like the ones above.
They will tend to move in closer and perhaps touch you when talking to you. This is so that they can feel you better, but can make other people uncomfortable.
They tend to talk at a slow pace.

How you can use this

The first rule of Maximum Communication is that the result of the communication is the responsibility of the communicator.

Knowing your system and the system of the other person or persons will allow you to convey your information in a way they will be able to understand by adapting your speaking, writing, or presentation to match their representational system. Remember... it's your responsibility to change to match them if you want to be effective.

One of the ways that this can be done is simply to match the words they use. If they say "feels good to me", don't say "sounds good to me", say "feels good to me". You can increase their understanding simply by matching their words. But, that's just the beginning!

Learn more

For a fun and entertaining explanation of how representational systems work, join me for "I Think I Know What I Think You Said".

This DVD is a recording of a live presentation and includes information about the other three systems (visual, auditory, digital) along with demonstrations and a complete method for easily using the power of representational systems in your daily communication.

  • Learn the characteristics of all four representational systems and how to use them to supercharge your personal and business communications.
  • Find out the secret way of instantly adapting yourself to the other person(s) without having to think about it.
  • Watch and play along as audience members discover the secrets of using the unconscious mind to communicate more effectively.
  • Discover why communication can go horribly wrong as I bring someone on stage and tell them "I don't like you". Watch and learn from their surprising reaction.
  • Uncover a powerful way to create rapport with complete strangers.
  • How to use representation systems to enhance romantic relationships.

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