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In any conflict situation, we have several choices to make. The first choice is whether to avoid or engage. If you choose to engage, then you can choose to try to force your way and dominate or to work to resolve the conflict using effective communication techniques?

how conflict happens

Use this chart to map out your typical response to conflict and use the conflict resolution information below to help you map out a better conflict resolution strategy.

Three most common causes of conflict:

This is not intended to be an exhaustive list, but in my experience with thousands of people, most conflicts can be traced to one of these three root causes.

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Mismatched values hierarchies.

Simply put, a "value" is what a person believes to be important.

Each person's values are arranged in a hierarchy with the most important value on the top and the least important value on the bottom. Our research has revealed that people will always seek out their highest value on the hierarchy.

When people or organizations have different values, or have the same values in a different order, there is the potential for conflict. The higher the values that are mismatched, the stronger the conflict will be.

For example here are the natural values hiearchies1 for men and women with regard to relationships:

 Men

Women

  • Sexual fulfillment  
  • Recreational companionship  
  • Attractive spouse  
  • Domestic support  
  • Admiration  
  • Affection  
  • Conversation  
  • Honesty and openness  
  • Financial support  
  • Family commitment  

As you can see (and probably know from experience), because of these different hierarchies, there is a natural tendency toward conflict. This same thing happens with other values in organizations.

The way to resolve a values conflict is to find a higher value than the ones in conflict that all parties can agree upon. The two primary techniques for doing this are:

  • Chunking up and down  
  • Perceptual positions  
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Attributing bad motives.

Are they really out to get you?

Do they really do this just to make you mad?

Examine the motives that you attributing to the other parties in the conflict and then ask yourself this empowering question:

What else could this mean?

You will be delighted with the answers that you discover!

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Failure to compensate for different perspectives.

We all have a unique set of values, beliefs, and past experiences that color how we interpret events. These factors combine to create our “personal perspective,” and these perspectives color our interpretation of words and events.

It's entirely possible for two people to have exactly the same experience and yet take completely opposite meanings for the experience.

When we fail to take the time to understand the perspectives of others, the even simplest events can deteriorate into conflict. Read more...

Realize this about conflict:

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You cannot "fix" other people.

It is difficult enough to change ourselves... and almost impossible to change someone else. Because you can only control yourself, adopt the first dynamic of effective communication and take responsibility for the outcome of the situation.

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There will always be difficult people.

The problem is not that there are difficult people. The problem is that we expect there NOT to be difficult people!

Here's now NOT to deal with people.

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YOU are someone else's difficult person.

You may not have realized it before now, but there is a good chance that some one finds it difficult to get along with you. Stop for a moment and think of who it might be and then decide what you can do to smooth your relationship with them.

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No one can control how you feel.

Unless you let them.

If someone makes you happy or sad, or depressed, or angry, resolve right now not to allow them to control you in the future. No one can control how you feel unless you give them permission to do so. Now is the time to take control.


More Free Resources:

Three Certainties About Conflict

The Causes of Conflict

What is Your Conflict?

How to Have a Fair Argument 

***IMPORTANT!*** Resources are added frequently. Check back often to stay current on your conflict resolution skills and strategies.

 


1 - William Harley in His Needs/Her Needs. Highly recommended.

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